Giving thanks for new life at Sweet Briar

Are you looking forward to Thanksgiving, and getting to see your daughter? I know I am! 🙂 Hard to believe school started 13 weeks ago. Has time flown for you, too? I chuckle as I hear about the various school “pets” which need to be fostered during Thanksgiving break — a python, a skink (yes, that’s skink, not skunk; I’d never heard of one either before now!) and other assorted critters. We have three pets of our own coming home — a horse, a fish and a guinea pig that lives with a friend in the Village. Plus we already have three cats and a dog. Feels like old times, having a whole menagerie again, and I confess that I love it 🙂

How was Families’ Day? I had other commitments so I did not attend, but I hope that you could attend and enjoyed the experience. What did you really like about it? Any suggestions for improvement for next time? Feel free to share your thoughts with me, and I’ll be sure they are heard by the right people.

President Stone addresses a group of local alumnae at a town hall event held on campus Nov. 15.
President Stone addresses alumnae at a local event held on campus Nov. 15.

Tuesday, Nov. 17, I attended the Washington, D.C., regional town hall in Centreville, Va. As usual, President Stone’s speech was informative, positive, uplifting and humorous, and he was great about answering questions from the group. If you are still wondering whether Sweet Briar will flourish, you can definitely put that question to bed permanently. President Stone is a leader who knows how to mobilize people to focus on the key things for the school to become financially solvent — a balanced budget, recruiting students and raising money — as well as recognizing smart things to spend money on to bring the school back to what is should be. For example, did you notice that new flagpole with a spotlight proudly flying the American flag in the main roundabout? Another example: Because most kids these days live and die by social media, the College has hired a marketing firm to assist with its social media marketing to prospective students.

The board also recently approved a budget that uses only 5 percent of the College’s endowment for the current year, the lowest percentage in more than 10 years, according to the Nov. 2 board report. Using no more than 5 percent is important because it is considered an industry benchmark for sustaining a healthy endowment. From what I’ve heard, this is the first time in over 25 years that Sweet Briar has only drawn 5 percent of its endowment for the year. Hopefully it goes without saying why a balanced budget is important. 🙂

Recruiting students is always important, but understandably Sweet Briar is playing catch-up here. In addition to “typical” recruiting efforts, Sweet Briar (I’m pretty sure Marcia Thom-Kaley has been the lead on this) has mobilized a large group of alumnae and some parents (and more are always welcome!) to help spread the word about Sweet Briar. They are attending college fairs, talking to local high schools and community colleges, having an alumna make follow-up calls to every prospective student who visits the campus, and even trying to match alumnae with prospective students according to particular areas of interest. The College is also hosting fun and interesting events that bring the girls to campus, from riding open houses to the Explore Engineering sessions, and hopefully others. If you have an idea for fun and interesting events that will attract high school students to the campus, please feel free to email it to me. I’ll make sure the appropriate people consider your suggestion and give you feedback on their decision.

Every college needs effective fundraising, and we are blessed to have Mary Pope Maybank Hutson ’83 as the new vice president for alumnae relations and development effective Jan. 1. Mary Pope led the Saving Sweet Briar campaign’s major donor task force beginning in March when the former administration announced its intention to close Sweet Briar, through September, when the group delivered its final payment to the College and fulfilled the terms of the settlement agreement to keep the College open. See more about Mary Pope here. Clearly, Mary Pope is motivated and effective, so we are in excellent hands!

Best of all, in the midst of all of this, President Stone truly understands the soul and culture of Sweet Briar, wants to preserve it, and takes actions to do so. He always talks about the importance of not just rebuilding Sweet Briar, but retaining the culture and soul of Sweet Briar because that is what makes Sweet Briar unique and exceptional. Holla, holla to President Stone and his administration!

While I always enjoy interactions with President Stone, my favorite part of the evening was getting to meet more amazing Sweet Briar alumnae! I met women from a broad age range, from a delightful young woman who graduated last spring, to women around my age, to much older women. I looked across the room and was surprised and pleased to recognize and reconnect with a friend that I hadn’t seen in probably 20-plus years! Back then, I hadn’t even heard of Sweet Briar, but when my daughter was accepted there, I realized that she is a Sweet Briar alumna. Every time I meet a Sweet Briar alumna, I’m always so impressed — every one I’ve met is intelligent, self-motivated, solution-oriented, articulate, friendly and well dressed. I walk away from every Sweet Briar gathering thinking, “Wow, we are so blessed to have found Sweet Briar!”

If you have an opportunity to go to a Sweet Briar regional town hall or an alumnae event, I highly recommend it! Feel free to bring friends and prospective students — after meeting Sweet Briar alumnae, any high school student who wants to excel in life will want to consider Sweet Briar!

On a different note, I’m not sure when my next blog will be. I am recovering from breast cancer, and am having breast reconstruction surgery on Tuesday, Nov. 24. I tell you this because I don’t know how soon I’ll be lucid enough to write a blog entry, and I didn’t want you to wonder if I just fell off of the face of the earth. 🙂 Hopefully I’ll be back before the end of the semester.

I wish you and your family a very Happy Thanksgiving! I hope that it is restful and joyful, and you get to enjoy spending time with your daughter.

What topics would YOU like me to address? Send them to me at SBCParentToParent@gmail.com, and I’ll address them in upcoming posts, or sooner if needed. Until then, I’ll talk to you again before we know it!

SBC will be there for her, even when you can’t

Wow, Halloween weekend was scary! Yes, it was Halloween, but for me that was not the scary part. I was very frightened when my daughter Julia texted me that she skipped class and was huddled on her bed, crying because she was in so much pain. I told her to go to the nurse NOW to be seen. She has been battling a mystery pain in her abdomen for several months, and was tired of being poked and prodded with no resolution, but this could not be ignored. Long story short, she ended up in the emergency room in Lynchburg General Hospital, diagnosed with a kidney infection, and had to be given morphine to make the pain subside to a tolerable level. Thankfully a friend had driven her to the ER, and in the wee hours of the morning she was back in her dorm room. Needless to say, that next morning my husband and I drove down to see how she was doing, and to spend the weekend caring for her. Hopefully you have never needed to know that a kidney infection is extremely painful! We got her on a consistent schedule of narcotic and non-narcotic pain meds, antibiotics and anti-nausea medications, and by Sunday night she actually wanted to eat a piece of pizza. Thankfully, she was back to classes while she finishes her antibiotics, and hopefully that is the last of the kidney infection.

There’s nothing like being too many miles away to help when your daughter is really sick to make you feel helpless. But there were several wonderful things that happened that should make you feel good about your daughter being at Sweet Briar:

Even though this ordeal started early Friday afternoon and lasted well past midnight, several friends didn’t hesitate to take time out of their busy Halloween Friday to drive Julia to Lynchburg General, stay with her, bring her food, drive her to the pharmacy to get her medications and ensure she took them as prescribed, drive her back to Sweet Briar, put her to bed and ensure she had what she needed. They kept an eye on her and helped as needed until we arrived. What another heartwarming display of how these young women truly look out for each other, and take care of each another without a second thought. Not how anyone wants to spend a Friday night on any weekend, much less on Halloween weekend when I’m sure there were many more fun and exciting things these girls would rather have been doing. But instead they did what was needed, just like you would do for your own family. They are only sophomores, but these Sweet Briar women already truly function as an extended family.

In addition, Julia missed a class on Friday, all of her classes on Monday and Tuesday, and couldn’t even spell her name properly over the weekend, so homework was out of the question. She emailed her teachers to let them know why, and they were all very understanding, sympathetic, and encouraged her not to worry about class and assignments, that when she was well enough to resume, they would work with her so that she can catch up on what she missed. You don’t see anything close to that kind of compassion and flexibility at a larger school. Julia is taking 18 tough credit hours this semester, and without her teachers’ flexibility, I really don’t know how she would be able to catch up. Instead of being stressed out the whole time she was sick, she could relax so she could heal as quickly as possible, and knew that she could work things out when she was better.

While I would never wish for this to happen, the silver lining is that Julia is on the mend, and we got to see that no matter what happens, we can count on Sweet Briar to take care of their own, both students and faculty, even when we can’t be there! That thought gives me great comfort; I hope it does for all of you, especially those who are far away, to know that your daughter has a community who will watch out for her in your absence. While of course we would always prefer to be there to care for our daughter when she is sick, her sisters will care for as good as (well, allllllmost as good as 🙂 you would, and her teachers will work with her when she is ready to resume her studies. I sure do love Sweet Briar!

One more quick topic for today: Do you know about the Vixen Den? The Vixen Den provides treats at sporting events, treats in the quad, and other treats on special occasions for the students on campus. Just a little thing, but a great morale booster! Many of the events can be totally funded for $100. Others can cost $1,000. Having many members in the Vixen Den who are willing to participate in funding events increases the number of events and the quality of the goodies. It’s easy to join by searching the Vixen Den on Facebook and requesting to join the group; then you can follow the requests for participation and choose which events to help fund. Won’t you please be open to joining the Vixen Den?

That’s all for today 🙂 What topics would YOU like me to address? Send them to me at SBCParentToParent@gmail.com, and I’ll address them in upcoming posts, or sooner if needed. Until then, talk to you soon!